I was just talking with my friend the other day how things are a lot different since/because of our first year of college. For a long time, I was obsessed with this 16 personalities test– seriously, take it! It’s crazy accurate. I took it a few times in high school, and was consistently getting a certain personality. Since finishing my first year, I’ve taken it again, and now, I’m consistently getting something totally different! (I’m an INFJ, btw!)
Anyways! My point is – my first year of college has changed me in ways that I never could have predicted, but it’s been for the better. I’ve never done so much learning (academically, and personally) in such a short amount of time. In light of the new school year approaching, I’m sharing with you some things I learned and realized during my first year of being on my own.
11 Things I Learned my Freshman Year
- You think you know what your plans are?? HA. Even just going into college, I found myself saying, “I’m probably going to hang out with this person, do this for fun, etc…” & BOY was I clueless. In September, I had my four year plan allll figured out. By October, that plan was in the garbage and replaced with something new. & so on….
- Every other person is on their own journey, going through their own problems, and all have their own experiences. Even your parents.
- Growing up is weird. I always thought things would feel super different, and that I was supposed to have a certain “adult” feeling. My friends are getting to be in their 20’s, my brother is ENGAGED, and I still feel like little ol’ me.
- Stick up for yourself, and be honest! Forever, I kept my feelings quiet. But if someone is making you feel small, tell them! If your friends invite you somewhere, and all you really want to do is lay in bed and re-watch New Girl for the third time in a row, don’t be afraid to say it.
- This is a lesson I learned pretty quick – if you really want to go somewhere, or join an organization, do it. Even if your friends aren’t – maybe especially then. You’ll meet your people along the way.
- Google Calendar is your BFF.
- You’re going to have to learn to let go of your plans. And that’s okay.
- Balance is EVERYTHING. Yes, get your homework and projects done on time. But if it’s 2:00am on a Wednesday night and you want to die if you ever hear the word “calculus” again, go to sleep.
- Along the same lines, don’t wait until the last minute! I totally feel like a parent saying this, but seriously, it got me so far ahead. When you get a project, work on it right away, even if it isn’t due for another week. You’ll be able to relax the night before, instead of rushing to class, simultaneously gluing on pieces along the way.
- Family is everything.
- Don’t take your dog for granted.
With the new year coming up, I’m excited to have a new apartment and new classes and to get back into the swing of things. But, I’m also cherishing every last sleepover with my sister, and planning for new ones when she comes and visits.
Changes are scary and stressful, but also new and exciting. This is such a weird time. I don’t know where I’ll be in 6 months, and a LOT of things are uncertain. It’s also such a rare time, where I get to choose wherever I want to go, and there’s a long and exciting road ahead.
I’m learning to roll with it.